When I hear the announcement “cabin crew arm doors and cross check” my heart sinks a little. It is then that I know I’m truly at a point of no return and committed to, what for us, will literally be a long-haul flight.
BJ is 18 years old and has Athetoid Cerebral Palsy which means among other things he has constant movement. Whether it is his CP or just his personality, he likes to be on-the-go constantly, making sitting in a seat for 14-15 hours a challenge. Why do we take this on again and again? It’s quite simple; once BJ arrives at his destination he is an absolute pleasure to travel with and seems to relish the stimulation of a new city and environment. If I’m honest there is also an element of not wanting to feel limited by a wheelchair in an aspect of our life we loved prior to having children and hoped to share with them.
We recently travelled to the USA – our third trip in the last four years. The fact we have travelled before does not relieve my anxiety but I do know preparation is key to a successful holiday.
We’ve had such accommodating and helpful Qantas flight crews on our previous trips we once again booked Qantas.
Arriving at Sydney Airport we held our breath as we approached the check-in counter hopeful the flight would have extra space and we would get seats that would suit us. It always helps that BJ greets everyone like they are a “rock-star” immediately making a connection. The Qantas check-in lady was no exception, smiling at him, shaking his out stretched hand and making him feel welcome. I explained BJ’s difficulty with flying and asked if any extra seats were available on the flight to give us a little more room. A supervisor was called and she showed great understanding and I left the check-in counter smiling like a Cheshire cat knowing we had seven seats between the four of us.
At the boarding gate we were greeted by Qantas staff who organised our pre-boarding. The staff member walking with us chatted happily to the kids about our holiday all the way down the air bridge. Kids love these moments when they feel included and special. At the door of the aircraft we had a cast of flight attendants waiting for us and Hubby and BJ walked on to the aircraft while I took off the wheelchair cushion, did up the lap sash and dealt with the left-over bags. What I love about the Qantas crews is that they are not precious, they muck in and help by carrying bags and assisting us to get seated.
Once we were seated a flight attendant came over and introduced himself and advised they were there to help at any time. I mentioned BJ’s difficulty with flying and asked at that point if BJ was restless during the flight if we could use the aisle chair to give him a change of position. He wasn’t sure if this was possible but suggested we ask if necessary. We were the row behind the bassinettes so although we had seven seats between us the leg room was very confined. We decided to put BJ against the window in the faint hope it might encourage sleep with something to lean against. We decided to spread out and take turns sitting next to BJ for the first part of the trip. AJ and I sat in the middle of the aircraft and Hubby and BJ sat to the side. The cushion we made for BJ seemed to be making him more comfortable which was a good sign.
We watched the usual safety announcements and I noted where my life jacket was in case it all got too much (joking of course) Listening to the welcome message we were thrilled to hear our Customer Service Manager, Mark, was someone we had on a previous flight. He was the flight attendant I met when travelling to LA with a friend a few years ago. At that time I hadn’t flown on a long haul trip with BJ and couldn’t imagine how we’d manage. Mark was a “can do” type of guy and explained how the toilet walls opened out to give access. He was the person who gave me the confidence to fly with BJ. We also had the pleasure of having him as our flight attendant on our last flight to LA. He knew only too well after that flight how difficult flying is for our family. I was confident he would look out for us. During the flight we took BJ for a walk and we met Mark in the aisle and he said “you’re back! I wondered whether it was your family when I was told about the family with someone with a disability” Either he remembered us fondly, or our reputation lingered. He did grab my hand warmly so I choose to believe the first one.
Five hours into the flight I felt slightly cocky. The entertainment I had brought along and the calming tablet seemed to have BJ happy. Things took a little turn for the worse when the man in front lay his seat back. Of course he was entitled to do that but I could see immediately that BJ’s extra movement would be an issue plus it was going to be hard to get him in and out to go to the bathroom. When you need to assist someone, the ordinary row, particularly against the window, is difficult to say the least. At about the six hour mark BJ started to get restless. We quickly gave him his sleeping tablet and tried to settle him down for the night. That was a hopeful thought.
It would take until the last 2.5 hours of the flight before BJ would go to sleep. He was tired and restless prior to that but just could not get comfortable. He eventually fell asleep on my shoulder wedged up under my chin. I dared not move a muscle no matter how uncomfortable I became for fear of disturbing him.
Throughout the night the flight attendants checked on us regularly offering us drinks or anything that may help. It impresses me that they are so empathetic.
We arrived in LA and a part from wanting to kiss the ground with relief at arriving, I was grateful for the flight attendants care. They said they would do what they could to send a message regarding seating for our other flights.
We had three more flights to tackle but we were thankful to have four nights in Los Angeles before flying again. I purposefully broke up our trip to ensure we all had time to recover.
Our entire trip was booked with Qantas and on the remainder of our flights we had bulk-head or bassinette seats which made the world of difference. BJ was still restless but everything was more manageable.
We experienced consistency with the flight crews on all of our flights. They shared the same caring and understanding as our first crew.
Our return flight to Sydney was at 10pm and BJ slept all bar four hours of the flight. One of the flight attendants had been on our flight to LA and shared our pleasure at BJ having a better flight.
All our flights were paid for and not sponsored by Qantas in any way. Mark, our Customer Service Manager, gave me the confidence to give flying with BJ a go a few years ago. Now we want to share our story and experiences in the hope it may give others the confidence to fly. Please remember though, all flights are different but preparation will assist in ensuring your booking will run as smoothly as possible.
Qantas have extensive information on their website regarding specific needs http://www.qantas.com.au/travel/airlines/special-travel-needs/global/en
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